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The Therapeutic Parenting Podcasts

Welcome to the Therapeutic Parenting podcast brought to you by this UK based Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma.
This weekly podcast is intended to support people whose lives are being torn apart by the consequences of early life trauma and neglect.
Are you a deeply concerned adopter or foster parent, birth parent, special guardian or kinship carer? Maybe you are someone who suffered trauma in your early years. Perhaps you’re a supporting professional looking for ways to help traumatized children and struggling families.
We believe this podcast could just be a lifeline for you if you are struggling and have no idea where to turn.
This podcast is being brought to you by the COECT and we are committed to providing people living and working with child trauma with proven strategies to achieve the best possible outcomes for families.
The Therapeutic Parenting podcast will feature in-depth conversations with the COECT professionals and other experts who understand your problems, because they’ve experienced them themselves. But they know a positive future is possible and they want to show you how.
You’ll find this podcast on all the usual podcast platforms and if you press subscribe now – each new edition will be automatically delivered to your device every week.

Episode 1:
Where Struggling Parents Can Go To Find Therapeutic Parenting Help

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The Therapeutic Parenting Podcast welcomes parents, children and supporting professionals to this first edition.

Meet Sarah Naish, CEO and Founder of the Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma and the author of best selling books on Therapeutic Parenting.

She and her team have built up an impressive array of services to help those whose lives are being torn apart by the consequences of early life trauma and neglect.

You can find out where to go for immediate help and advice here on the podcast or here on the website.

Sarah also explains the significance of our penguin logo and why it is such a relevant image for those parenting children who suffered early life abuse or traumatic experiences even before birth.

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Episode 2:
How to identify Developmental Trauma Disorder in your child

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Developmental Trauma Disorder is a little known phrase that is only now beginning to gain traction with health authorities.

Why is it important?

Sarah Naish, explains –  it is the right term to describe the behavioural characteristics displayed by children due to neglect and trauma or by those who experienced serious pre-birth problems.

All too often, their symptoms are diagnosed as post traumatic stress disorder complex. But this is not the correct diagnosis and can lead to wrong assumptions by professionals that end up with the child being misdiagnosed.

As Sarah says, “it’s time we woke up and smelt the coffee and recognise developmental trauma for what it is”. 

As mentioned on the podcast, you can find Sarah’s book “The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting” here

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Episode 3:
How to Understand your Child's Malfunctioning Internal Working Model

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You may be puzzling over why your traumatised child’s behaviour around birthdays and festivities becomes even more challenging and difficult than normal.

Our expert guest,  Glynis Hough, is a Foster Parent with decades of experience, a parent of multicultural children, a former social worker and a parent coach.

She’s been been involved with the National Association of Therapeutic Parenting (NATP) since its inception.   

Glynis explains in detail why your traumatised child’s ability to trust adults – profoundly undermined by their early life experiences – makes them question their own sense of self-worth.

This leads to all sorts of complicated and unexpected behaviour patterns at any time, but particularly during family celebrations.

Here Glynis talks about her own experiences and effective strategies for coping.                                   

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Episode 4:
Top Tips for Helping An Adoptive Child Join Your Family

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First meetings and moving your adoptive child in to join your family can be among the most important in helping a child, especially a traumatised one, settle well.

COECT expert Jane Mitchell knows from personal experience about the pitfalls and gives clear and essential advice in this podcast on how to handle both these important occasions.

Her words of wisdom centre around understanding what is going through the mind of the child based on their previous experiences – which might have taught them to be very wary indeed of adults. But parents also need to  understand their own mindset and how they might need to take a step back and reduce their expectations.

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Episode 5:
Why Your Traumatised Child "Behaves Badly"

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Sarah Dillon, spent much of her childhood in care.
 
Now a child and adult therapist, she is an internationally-recognised expert with experience on both sides of the therapeutic parenting fence.
 
In this episode, she speaks to parents who all too often feel judged when their traumatised child displays regressive behaviours in public – such as screaming tantrums in the supermarket or shoplifting.
 
As she says, it’s one thing dealing with small children in such cases, quite another with a much older and bigger child.
 
Listen to this podcast episode to discover why parents have absolutely no need to feel failures but why developing “a skin like an elephant and a heart like a marshmallow” are necessary coping strategies.
 
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Episode 6:
 Why a Child from Trauma Fears Adoption

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Rosie Jefferies, the Managing Director of COECT, talks frankly about the fears and emotions she experienced as a small child at the start of her adoption journey.
 
Rosie’s profound early life trauma meant she was understandably distrustful of all adults. Indeed she viewed them as dangerous to herself and to her four younger siblings.
 
In this podcast she gives a moving description of the fearful emotions she felt on moving in with her adoption family for the first time.
 
She contrasts the dark of her past with the bright light of the new family home which eventually came to represent safety and security to her.
 
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Episode 7:

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In this episode, Jessica Jackson, an academic and practicing social worker as well as the adopter of two sibling boys joins us to advise on how to help a traumatized child go to sleep. 

Wherever childhood trauma occurs, sleep will be impacted. 

Nightime might well be associated with bad memories and it is well known that traumatized children are more susceptible to nightmares and night terrors. 

Jessica knows what she talking about from a professional and personal point of view. Here she advises us on:

Why sleep is disturbed for traumatized children 

How to establish key bedtime routines  

What kind of food to give to help children feel sleepy

How to make your child’s bedroom conducive to sleep 

How to respond to their emotional behaviour and to reassure them 

How to cocoon and make a child feel safe

Why parents shouldn’t feel guilty if things don’t always go to plan.

 

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Episode 8:

Therapeutic Parenting: The Kind of Dad I Need To Be

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Our first male guest of this series joins us on this podcast edition to talk about a father’s experience of therapeutic parenting. 

Kinship Carer, Iain Fogg and his wife have cared for the daughter he refers to on the podcast as “kiddo” (not her real name), for the last two years.   

We learn about the so-called honeymoon period and its aftermath, secondary trauma and compassion fatigue. 

Iain also discusses the grief he underwent for the loss of the idealized vision he imagined life as a foster father would be like. 

He presents a stark but ultimately hope-filled story not of the the kind of dad he wanted to be but of the kind of dad he needed to be. 

In this episode Iain talked about the film “Instant Family” as the one that originally inspired him and his wife to investigate fostering further. 

Iain’s Instagram account is called “TherapeuticDad” and he welcomes all new followers.

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Episode 9:

The Anguish Behind Understanding How the Family Courts Work

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“Bazza” is a professional social worker with in-depth experience of working in the family courts protecting the rights – and the futures – of children. 

For good professional reasons, she has to remain anonymous. 

But on this podcast edition she provides us with an invaluable insight into how the family courts arrive at their decisions. 

Decisions which make fundamental differences to people’s lives and most especially, to traumatized children’s lives.

“Bazza” explains about the research, the soul-seeking, and the genuine desire to do the right thing that goes into the court’s pronouncements.  

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Episode 10:

Therapeutic Parenting for Children Traumatised by Domestic Violence

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Therapeutic Parenting for Children Traumatised by Domestic Violence.
 
The damage inflicted on a child as a result of domestic violence – be it physical or emotional – can have a catastrophic effect on their young lives.
 
In this episode, Rachel Cawthorn, helps us to understand why this is the case and what physiological changes take place in a child as a result of this abuse.
 
Rachel is a social worker with 15 years experience in the profession. She also experienced domestic violence as a child and, as a result, entered into two toxic relationships as a young adult which took their toll on her four children.
 
All this is now firmly in Rachel’s past but no one could be better placed to understand the damage inflicted by this kind of abuse.
 
This is why her advice on how to apply therapeutic parenting’s kind and gentle techniques is worth heeding.
 
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Episode 11:

Therapeutic Foster Care Versus Standard Foster Care

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As a trailblazer in the field of therapeutic parenting, COECT founder Sarah Naish has made a profound difference to the lives of many struggling foster and adoptive parents.

She also runs fostering agencies in England and Wales where her effective strategies are applied.

The agencies empower families to make a success of fostering even when things appear to be at their most difficult.

This week Sarah tells us what defines a therapeutic fostering agency and how her own ones provide wraparound support when problems arise.

Learn about how the True Fostering Agency and the new SAfER Fostering Agency in Wales   successfully guide parents through difficulties that include false allegations, compassion fatigue and mental health issues.

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